Society is tragically losing its ability to win and lose with grace. We’ve come to assume that a brash tone and a harsh tongue are the best tactical methods for winning arguments.
But are we wrong? Proverbs 25:15 tells us: “Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.” That’s a pretty powerful message. Listen to hear why it really matters:
Rather than harsh tactics, perhaps we should remember that patience and gentleness aren’t necessarily signs of weakness.
As people head to the polls today and engage friends and families in debate — and as both sides cope with the electoral results — it’s essential to remember this truth.
Unfortunately, too many of us see ideological opponents as enemies, yet even if they disagree with us on the facts — and even if they are unkind to us — aren’t we called to be better? Solomon tells us as much in Proverbs 25:21-22. He writes:
“If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you.”
We need to operate with love and self-control, particularly when dealing with those who are challenging or with those with whom we disagree. Fury and anger might seem like the most expedient path toward strength and power, but we’re called to be and do something better.
Consider Proverbs 25:28 as you struggle with — or even celebrate — election results: "Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”
Let’s be better.